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Habbar (ra): The Miscarriage of the Prophet’s ﷺ Grandchild | The Firsts
Imagine being responsible for the death of the Prophet ﷺ’s daughter and unborn grandchild.
Habbar ibn al-Aswad (ra) was one of the few men excluded from the general amnesty when Mecca was liberated. Find out how he still ended up forgiven, and why the Prophet ﷺ even defend him from the Muslims of Medina.
Forgiveness here was given by the one who had the right to give it, after a sincere repentance and apology. It’s never an obligation placed on the victim.
This transcript was auto-generated using AI and may contain misspellings.
00:00The next person that we cover is even deeper in many ways and his name is
00:13Habbar ibn al-Aswad, Habbar ibn al-Aswad, radhi Allahu ta'ala 'anhu. His name is
00:20Habbar ibn al-Aswad ibn al-Muttalib ibn Asad ibn 'Abd al-'Uzza al-Qurashi. His father was al-Aswad ibn al-Muttalib and he was actually one of the mockers of the
00:33Prophet ﷺ as well and some of the scholars mentioned Inna a'tay naka al-kawthar is about him, his mockery as well. So you'll find like in the tafsir sometimes when they try to pinpoint like which of those that did istihza' that
00:45mocked the Prophet ﷺ most severely is referred to with this particular ayah and so his father is one of those who was very severe in his mockery of the
00:56Prophet ﷺ but that's not what makes his story deeper and more hurtful with the Prophet ﷺ. Remember the Messenger of Allah ﷺ is the
01:07one upon whom Surah Yusuf was revealed as these people were causing him the deepest of oppression right so no one hears the pain of having to forgive your brothers like the Prophet ﷺ hears and feels that pain. The pain of
01:22Habbar was not just in his mockery of the Prophet ﷺ but it's in what he did to the daughter of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, Zaynab ﷺ and so if you remember when you go back to the story of Zaynab the daughter of Rasul
01:36Allah ﷺ when Badr happened, Abul 'As the husband of Zaynab of course was forced out to Badr as well to fight against the Prophet ﷺ. He didn't want to
01:50be there but he was forced out on the opposing side of the Prophet ﷺ and Abul 'As was ransomed right but one of the conditions was that Zaynab
02:03be released to Medina that at least the daughter of the Prophet ﷺ be released and allowed to come to Medina. So the Prophet ﷺ sent Zaynab and one of the other companions whose name I can't
02:17remember right now to of course receive Zaynab at the outskirts of Mecca and this became a huge dispute in Mecca right with the
02:29relatives especially of Abul 'As that how are we going to let Zaynab out she's now part of our family how are we going to let her go and be with the Prophet
02:40ﷺ and so this becomes a huge dispute within Mecca about letting her go and so in that process Kinana ibn Rabi' who was the brother of Abul 'As
02:55he led her camel out and he basically dispatched her towards the area that they agreed upon that Zayd and his companion would receive Zaynab
03:07and Quraysh saw this as humiliation of course they're very bitter from the Battle of Badr in particular and they want to inflict any type of pain that they can on the Prophet ﷺ so they sent a group of these thugs basically
03:20thugs to intercept Zaynab on the way out of Mecca so this is the daughter of the Prophet ﷺ she was pregnant and she was in her
03:32howdah and she's on her way out of Mecca and Habbar ibn al-Aswad was the first one to arrive at the scene in Dhi Tuwa and he took his spear and he thrust it
03:45into her howdah like which is the caravan and basically that caused the camel to
03:52throw her off of the camel she fell against a stone and she miscarried very severely that's the grandchild of the Prophet ﷺ that's the daughter of
04:05the Prophet ﷺ that's miscarrying because of how severe the blow was so she's pregnant she miscarried she survived the journey but she almost
04:17died on the journey herself right despite of course having survived the miscarriage now here's where this also takes another turn which is the
04:29narration of 'A'ishah ﷺ where 'A'ishah ﷺ she actually mentions that Zaynab she maintained the pain of that moment that she went
04:43through the pain of that moment for the rest of her life to the point that when she you know passed away we said she passed away from the wound or what
04:56happened to her on that journey and so the Muslims counted her as a martyr so Zaynab ﷺ is not just someone who you know suffers from a miscarriage because of this but someone who actually in the process of this
05:10finds herself in this difficult situation where she even passes away from the difficulty of this and there's a narration from
05:22the Prophet ﷺ in al-Mustadrak and it's also in al-Hakim and also in al-Isaba that the Prophet ﷺ said she's the most virtuous of my children my daughter she was killed for me she was
05:33hurt for me like this pain came to her because of me and you gotta think that the Prophet ﷺ of course carried this pain for her all the way until the moment where he would once
05:47again see the man who caused this pain to her so when the Prophet ﷺ Zaynab died right before Fath Mecca and again she was considered a shahida because she never recovered from the wound and the pain
06:00that was caused she suffered the rest of her life because of that strike from Habbar when the Prophet ﷺ came back to Mecca Fath Mecca the
06:11Prophet ﷺ gave of course a general amnesty he gave a general forgiveness but he mentioned ﷺ a tiny list of individuals he said these people when you find them you kill them these people are not forgiven and
06:25Habbar is one of those people and the Prophet ﷺ says even if you find them holding on to the Ka'bah holding on to the cloth of the
06:35Ka'bah this group of people they do not fall under the general amnesty and I mean you can imagine the hurt of the Prophet ﷺ this man killed his
06:46grandchild and possibly his daughter as well according to the narration of 'A'ishah the Prophet ﷺ said if you find this person and that person you burn them with fire then the
07:01Prophet ﷺ came back and he said and that I had commanded you to burn this person if you find this person he said as for the fire
07:13but as for the fire only Allah punishes with the fire so you know basically the Prophet ﷺ was corrected in not being able to put out a punishment that they would be killed in that way the Prophet ﷺ said
07:26but if you find these people still they should be killed Habbar is one of these people Habbar went running away from Mecca and basically he said that I hid in caves and I hid in valleys and I basically
07:41just tried to survive in the middle of nowhere until Fath Mecca passed until the Prophet ﷺ would have gone through Mecca left Mecca returned to Medina so he said I survived basically as a nomad I just went out in the middle of nowhere
07:55and I survived and I hid from the Prophet ﷺ with everything that happened now this becomes a very dramatic turn of events for him
08:06okay what does Habbar do when the Prophet ﷺ goes back to Medina and everything he goes to Medina and he basically sneaks into Medina so he snuck
08:18out of Mecca and he stayed away from the Prophet ﷺ at Fath Mecca and I mean the man's guilty of murder and not just murder but murder of a family member of the Prophet ﷺ right a family member of the Prophet ﷺ or two it's a
08:32grievous crime and he continued to oppose the Prophet ﷺ all these years so imagine he slips into Medina but he keeps himself wrapped and he goes to
08:43Masjid al-Nabi ﷺ and he goes right to the Prophet ﷺ he unwraps his face and he says ash-hadu an la ilaha illa Allah wa ash-hadu anna Muhammadan Rasul Allah
08:55that's awkward right like wait what you did this and you did that and you escaped Mecca and you and then he just walks in now by the way there's another story that gets conflated with this was 'Abdullah ibn Abi Sarh which I might do a
09:09separate side episode on that one insha'a Allah on that particular episode but this this is hard it's hard on the Prophet ﷺ the Messenger of Allah ﷺ he looks up he sees him it says ash-hadu an la ilaha illa Allah wa ash-hadu anna Muhammadan Rasul Allah
09:23Rasul Allah ﷺ he puts his head down like this is painful this is hard right but the Messenger of Allah ﷺ is a man of divine revelation
09:36he doesn't act upon his emotions ﷺ so the Sahaba are watching the scene unfold and I mean there has to be something like he could have just gone away and he could have escaped to you know Persia or Rome or something like
09:50that like Habbar could have gone away why slip into Medina and come to the Prophet ﷺ and he said as-salamu alayka ya nabiy Allah so this is the full narration as-salamu alayka ya nabiy Allah peace be unto you, O Prophet of
10:02Allah ash-hadu an la ilaha illa Allah wa ash-hadu anna Muhammadan Rasul Allah I bear witness that there's only one God and that Muhammad ﷺ is the Messenger of Allah ﷺ qala wa qad harabtu minka fil bilad he said that I
10:15ran away from you in the lands fa araytu al-luhuq bil-a'ajm he said that and I was thinking to go and join the a'ajm here means the non-Arabs what he means are the Persians or the Romans right I was gonna go join another empire I was
10:29basically going to slip out of Mecca Medina and never come back then he said thumma dhakartu I remembered fadlaka wa sabhaka 'amman jahil anka I was
10:43reminded of your forgiveness of your forbearance and your mercy towards those that transgressed against you subhan'Allah like as I went out I was
10:56reminded of those virtues that you have ya Rasul Allah wa kunna ya nabiy Allah ahla shirk fa hadana Allahu bik we were O Messenger of Allah a people of
11:06shirk and Allah guided us through you wa anqadana bika min al-halak and Allah 'azza wa jall saved us through you from destruction
11:15fasfah 'an jahli wa amma kana yablughuka 'anni fa inni muqirrun bi-sui fi'li mu'tarif bidhanbi he said I'm asking you ya Rasul Allah to forgive me for
11:29all the pain that I caused you and for all the times that I opposed you and he said and I am fully acknowledging the evil that I did and I am fully repenting for
11:42my sin like I am not trying to belittle what I did to you ya nabiy Allah but I know your virtue I know your mercy and I know what you did with your enemies
11:55in Mecca so I came to you basically counting on that same virtue the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam looks at him and he didn't say I need to think about
12:08this he said qad 'afawtu 'ank he said I forgive you I forgive you and he said wa qad ahsan Allahu ilayka haythu hadaka ila al-Islam he said Allah was so good to you by
12:22guiding you to Islam like your situation had you died upon shirk would have been horrible ahsan Allahu ilayka idh hadaka ila al-Islam and he said wal-Islam yajub
12:34ma qablahu and Islam forgives everything that came before it I forgive you subhan'Allah right away and clearly Allah 'azza wa jall was good to you by guiding you to Islam because if you would have died a murderer of the daughter of the
12:49Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, the grandchild of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, an enemy of Islam, a mocker of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, you would have been in hell forever but Allah 'azza wa jall was good to you oh Habbar so recognize the favor of
13:00Allah subhanu wa ta'ala upon you so subhan'Allah he forgives him and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam leaves no scene when you hear the story if you were there
13:14wouldn't you want to at least go up to Habbar and like push them and be like you are so lucky that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam forgave you because if I could do this to you and I could do this to you and I could do that to you like you would be outraged on
13:29behalf of the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. You love the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam more than yourself and you saw the pain of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and the anger of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam towards Habbar for what he did to Zaynab
13:38and her child, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam forgave and he left the scene. So what ends up happening is even though Habbar repented and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam forgave him,
13:52some of the Muslims in the streets in Medina would just stop him and like berate him. We heard for almost a decade what you did to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. You're so lucky. If we would have found you even hanging on the cloth of the Ka'bah, we would have taken you.
14:07We would have gotten revenge on you. You know what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says? He calls the community and those that were berating Habbar, and he says:
14:21Whoever insults Habbar, know that you're insulting me. Allah forgave him. Let it go. This is the man, alayhi salatu wasallam, that they accuse of. Like, think about the character
14:33of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Subhanallah, leave him alone. And the only way he could pull them off of Habbar was to say that look, you hurt him, you're actually hurting me.
14:46You curse him, you're cursing me. I forgave him. Allah forgave him. Let it go. And Habbar would migrate to
14:56ash-Sham, to Syria, specifically during the futuhat, during the conquest after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And Ibn Hajar, rahimahullah, said he lived as an honorable Muslim. He was
15:11participating in all of the futuhat, and he settled in Syria and he had two sons whom he named Abdullah and az-Zubair. So not Abdullah ibn az-Zubair. He had two sons. He named Abdullah and az-Zubair, and these two sons became 'ulama that narrated from the sahabah of
15:23the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, and Habbar died in Syria where he is buried today. Another one hits hard, but look at what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam does with him.
15:37Right, and there's something here about not just the emotion of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, but look at how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, when the command of Allah comes, the
15:50Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam sticks to that. You see, your principles are only as good as you're abiding by them in the times when it's hardest to abide by them, right? So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said burn him—like, just be real—at that time, like, would you not think like that's a
16:02man who deserves to be burned for what he did to that woman, to not just any woman, Zaynab, and her child—a child that was miscarried—but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam? No one can
16:14tell him, but don't burn people. No, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam stops at the command of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Allah 'aza wa jal does not allow that. When he comes and he seeks forgiveness, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam could have said, "You know what, guys, there's an
16:28exception here. His shahada doesn't count because I already marked him for death," and or he could have said sallallahu alayhi wasallam, "You know what, like, I forgive you, but you still need to pay for the crime that you committed." No, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says Islam does away with that
16:41which came before. That also, as some of the scholars mentioned, made it for the sahabah more digestible
16:46for them to forgive the killers of their parents, forgive for them to forgive the killers of their
16:57uncles and their aunts and their siblings, right? Why? Because if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was exceptionalizing himself this entire time, then it wouldn't feel natural. But the one who
17:07was making the greatest sacrifice was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, because he was the one who was hurt the most, sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
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